Jaane Kab!

Jaane kab tu chod gaya or yeh mann b badal gaya

par kispar yakeen  karu

Jaana na yeh ab tak

Jab tak tha tu sath

Zindagi ko jaana tha sirf tab tak.

Kahin aansu baha na de tuje iss nazar se

Darr lagta hai ab rone se bhi

Ye kaisa mod aagaya hai

Nai paa sakti tuje ab, Khudko khone se bhi.

Intezar ki sidhi chad kr

Ek ek kadam utarna kabul hai

par tujse pyaar krne ki zidd

Mere liye sabse maqbool hai.

Only If You’d Told Me

Only if you had told me

You want to be away from my love shadow;

I’d have given up the desire

And burnt this freaking fire.

My love never meant to owe you

It’s just a feeling to show you –

How crazy I am to behold you,

And your life closely – every minute.

Only if you’d told me

 It was a turn off;

 I’d have run away; seemingly

 Never to return

 And cleared your pathway to happiness.

 The act would have sufficed my emotions

 For, to me, your smile is a treasure

 And would confer me a life-long pleasure.

Only if you’d told me

 My presence is troublesome

 You need to be without me

 I’d have demised for your memory

 And would have lived in seclusion 

My only wish is to see your life

 Run like a lion’s club

 Always glorious, always pulsating.

10 Things That Will Never Let Her Forget You.

1. The Right Girl  

If you think some rock band is gonna host a performance to let you know you’re in love boss, you know right away you’re acting dumb. That isn’t happening unless you’re a chocolate boy doing some reel life role. Neither will you find any girl with her forehead flashing brightly “oh I’m perfect for you”.  The moment you feel like holding her hand even if in public, sharing with her your wildest dreams or expressing your hidden fears and pain, believe me you’ve been trapped. No bait can get you to another trap. And this is the trap of your very own love. Taking time to validate it is a fine idea though.

2. The Right Time

Love brings hastiness in us. Isn’t it? The moment you realize you are in love, you go hoo-ha over it and feel like climbing to some rock and shouting on top of it – “I LOVE YOU”. Some people do that and perhaps there is no real great joy in reliving the proposal. It passes away with the blink of an eye. And had we done that too, it would take us to a lifelong foolishness. Love is something special, however its acknowledging has to be more special than the feeling itself. In the spur-of-the-moment, hence, no action must be taken. Everything needs to be planned, although your girl must be quiet aware of your cheeky smiles, when entering the “L” zone for the first time. Keep her guessing when you’d be up to it. Let her be inquisitive and in a sort of darkness before you finally let it flow out; for this darkness and uncertainty will make her feel taken aback and possibly that you don’t love her and may be you’re never gonna make it. And then comes the right time to surprise her and take her to a visit to the heaven.

Nevertheless do not push the time too long or she will be turned her off.

3. The Right Dress 

Nobody loves to miss the sensuous feel and hence, a right dress at a right time is must. Gift her some outfit in advance, something you’d love to see on her. And plan your look accordingly; for you do not want to look Govinda in yellow pants dating a Marilyn Monroe.

4. The Right Journey

The start has to be aesthetic to win “Leonardo Da Vinci” title. Compliment her as soon as you guys meet and whatever mode of transport you opt, make sure to comfort her. If you’re choosing a car, let your hand-picked songs play the witty yet emotional game and drool over her feelings. Amidst the songs, hold her hand and ask how is she feeling at the moment? Trust me, you will win over her. And if it’s a 2-wheeler, check on your speed. It’s not a racing tournament but a date.

5. The Right Ambiance

Your first date is a life time memory and I am sure no one loves to remember simply ordinary things. From music to the decor, it has to be oh-my-God. Go for soft instrumental music, a table for two decorated with scented petals and a thick candle in between and if she is someone who amazes at firework, do include it in your day. Don’t overdo with anything especially balloons and flowers but make it a worthwhile moment.  If she looks at it and feels its-the-most-beautiful-moment, she is gonna follow you all her life just as a favour for this moment.

6. The Right Food And Drink 

Lads are indeed better in checking out the likes and dislikes of lasses; but for those who don’t do that might me a trouble. Well, know the dishes she relish before hand and order that without asking her. This trick will show you as a witty monster but she would love that undoubtedly. Talking about drinks, it doesn’t always have to be alcohol but fruit champagne at times makes a day sober and royal. Isn’t it?

7. The Right Words

A feeling is justified if it is expressed beautifully. Anyone can say “I love you” but very few can say “I don’t promise to make you happy 24*7 but I can promise to love you 24*7.”

8. The Right Moment

Let her gulp down the proposal and feel it’s in reality; never ever leave the place in a jiffy after the big announcement. Spend quality time knowing her desires, dreams, interests and share yours too- if you have not done yet.

9. The Right Leave-Taking

Drop her home or somewhere safe and don’t just say bye and let her go.  That’s not chivalry teaches you. Tell her to text you after being home and that you’d love to see her again.

10. The Right Goodbye For The Day

Don’t forget to let her know how much you enjoyed being with her and that she is the most beautiful girl you’ve ever met. Be honest, in this case if she isn’t someone with a pretty face, you can always cling onto her beautiful heart and things you love about her.

यूँ तो (Yun toh)

यूँ तो हम तन्हा ना थे

 मगर आज तन्हाई मे बहेक गये

 यूँ तो हम ख़ुदग़र्ज़ ना थे

 मगर आज ख़ुदग़रज़ई मे फिसल गये

 यूँ तो हम नौटंकी ना थे

 मगर आज शरारातो मे मचल गये

 यूँ तो हम दिल से मजबूर ना थे

 मगर आज दिल्लगी मे बदल गये...

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Yun toh hum tanha na the

Magar aaj tanhai me behek gaye

Yun toh hum khudgarz na the

Magar aaj khudgarzi me fisal gaye

Yun toh hum nautanki na the

Magar aaj shararato me machal gaye

Yun toh hum dil se majbur na the

Magar aaj dillagi me badal gaye

Arvind Kejriwal falls in his own trap- must watch.

It is said that if you speak the truth, you don't have to remember it. But if you speak lies, you fall prey in your own trap. This is what happened to Arvind Kejriwal, he got fed up with his own lies and pretending to be a mango man; hence, he came out with his real face. Watch this video of Arvind Kejriwal and Punya Prasun and see the real face of ex Delhi CM.

Is cric full of business or biz full of cricket?

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Indian Premier League (IPL) - highly talked about cricket festival is turning out as another eye opener. Politicians, top businessman, underworld, sportsman and police officers have been accused of running this cricket industry. Sources say whenever any volcano is about to erupt, these powerful people use their magic wands and do everything ranging from transferring people to offer them higher positions and to add further, offering them bribe and thereby maintain their tiny dirty secret.

The excitement viewers and fans offer is nothing more than a business deal for these match fixers. You will not only be surprised to know the fact that all the matches you thought were crispy and twisty were in fact some frozen food being served to you hot. I know it's really heart breaking to be cheated this way by people we considered to be stars; but our stars are saying that they play for BCCI. So is BCCI all messed up just for money and is the perceived national game of India all about money?

Whatever crap they offer on being questioned, shit will be shit and certainly we are not going to take anyone's shit. If cricket is all about bookies playing a game, what role are cricketers sticking to? Booking bookies a hotel room or a front seat in stadium. I believe that we have Bollywood which is pretty enough for the fixed action and drama we love and we don't want our country's sports especially cricket to be synonymous to such predetermined actions. We want real time highs and lows. Losing a match is acceptable to us, the Indians, but winning a fixed match is not at all palpable.

This mystery of who is/was involved seems will not be solved so easily. Looks like cricket got clean bowled in “ a national sport” category but played a fair century for “a national business” title.

Jai Ho.

दीवाना इश्क़ तेरा (Diwana Ishq tera)

खुदा का है एक एहसान मुझ पर; जो दिया है एक एहसास तेरा.
मिलवा कर मुजसे; बताया उसने कोई है मेरे लिए भी.
कहते है होते हैं सब अलग; फिर तू मुजसा कैसे?
मुजसा  जो तू है, तो मुजसे जुदा  कैसे?

खामोश है यह दिल;कहूँ तो क्या कहु.
अक्सर आसमान  को देख के सोचती हू -
क्या राज़ है जो चाँद मे भी है अक्स तेरा?
क्या ये प्यार है या है एक भर्म मेरा?

उदास है चेहरा मेरा; नम है अश्क मेरे
हस्सते है लभ फिर भी, जब दिखता है इश्क़ तेरा.

खुदा वो है जिससे हम जानते हैं ओर विश्वास वो है जिससे हम मानते हैं
तो आ मिले इन्न हवाओं मे, तो आ दिखे इन्न सितारो मे,
तो आ महसूस करे दूण्या - एक दूसरे मे,
तो आ मिले कुछ इस तरह, जिसे पहले ना देखा हो ज़माने ने!

Khuda ka hai ek ehsaan mujh par; Jo dia hai ek ehsaas tera.

Milwa kar tuje mujse; Bataya usne koi hai mere liye bhi.

Kehte hai hote hain sab alag;Fir tu mujsa kaise?

Mujsa  jo  tu hai, toh mujse judaa kaise?

Khamosh hai yeh dil; kahun to kya kahu.

Aksar aasman  ko dekh ke sochti hu -

Kya raaz hai jo chand me bhi hai aks tera?

Kya ye pyar hai ya hai ek bharm mera?

Udaas hai chehra mera; namm hai ashq mere

Hasste hai labh fir bhi, jab dikkhta hai ishq tera.

Khuda vo hai jisse hum jaante hain

Or Vishwas vo hai jisse hum maante hain

To aa mile inn hawao me,

to aa dikhe inn sitaro me,

to aa mehsoos kare dunya - ek dusre me,

to aa mile kuch iss tarah,

 jise pehle na dekha ho zamane ne!

Why to ban freedom in a democratic India (section 377) ?

 Since 1991, the year I was born, protests have been initiated to decriminalize the section 377 of the Indian Penal Code; it startles me that the fight is still going on, even after 22 years.

Being a protagonist of the human rights, I strongly believe in the conviction that people have an absolute right to choose their lifestyle, sexuality and their sex – partner. A relieving moment, it was, to comprehend the judgement of 2nd July, 2009 by Delhi High Court upholding the concept of “inclusiveness” in the Indian Society and hence legalizing the rights of the homosexuals; but its non-acceptance by Supreme Court last year, is saddening and has left a stain on its basic understanding of a citizen as an individual.

Laws are of the people, by the people and for the people – every citizen counts when we refer “the people”- therefore, the law makers ought to be empathetic and respectful towards the needs, choices and rights of every citizen; including only the majority while sweeping away the rights of minorities, will not create a flawless rule, in fact it shall defeat the very purpose of justice.

Criminalizing the non-consensual sex is indeed the significant aspect of the Section 377 but punishing the homosexuals as “deviants” and taking away their right to consensual intercourse with a same sex partner and wanting them to choose a heterosexual partner under the pretext of “the order of nature”, as mentioned in the section 377, is building nothing but a discriminated and closed society. Hence, we need to wave off the 153 year old British ideology and embrace the broad concept of “individualism” in the light of articles 14, 15, 21 and 26 of the Constitution of India and thereby set an “equal and just” society.

Just because we have not witnessed this culture before can in no way can become a reason for resisting it even now. Although the older generation and some of the youngsters may find it a little weird to accept it but then we need to be mature and open to receiving newness in our culture and sexuality as well. Besides, by not accepting the individuality of gay community, we are somehow in a way promoting hardness amongst our people, where would they go and how will they respect their country and it's constitution which boasts personal freedom and rights. I don't think freedom is a passport only for a few. It has to be same and in equal extent for everyone; then why are the law-makers and law-interpreters are trying to alter the meaning of freedom? I'd want to as them – Is it right to make LGBTs feel alien in their own nation? Is a law worthy enough if it doesn't recognize the rights of your own people? Should there be any law at all to impose the sexuality on any damn citizen?

Let us just imagine a society respecting and accepting each other as they are and not trying to interfere unnecessarily through the means of law or whatever. I hope that is what Rabindranath Tagore had imagined or tried to imagine when he wrote-  " Into that heaven of freedom". I, thus, support the decriminalization of the section 377 of The Indian Penal Code and I would like to conclude with - “Discrimination is antithesis of equality and that it is the recognition of equality which will foster the dignity of every individual.” *

(*Line of ruling of Delhi HC Judgement)

(Article 14 –       Equality before Law

Article 15 –       Prohibition of discrimination on grounds of religion, race,                       

                           Caste, sex, place of birth.

Article 21 –       Protection of life and personal liberty

Article 26 –       Freedom of expression)

1HOUR = NO WHATSAPP +100 ACTIONS AND 1HOUR = 15 SUICIDES + 3 RAPES + 0 ACTIONS

Before newspapers published the details of the Facebook - Whatsapp deal; the applications themselves posted it and the word spread like a fire. Every 7 year old kid is aware of it, forget about others. Later, on the night of 22^nd February, 2014 there was some server issue with Whatsapp and the hype it created was flabbergasting. Many people got onto Facebook to confirm that it was a general problem and not their individual problem (after being confirmed they were obviously relieved), groups and fan pages started uploading funny images mocking at the Whatsapp buyout and the digital star - Mark Zuckerberg. The gloomy reaction was as if “The Whatsapp” was their virtual cosmos and somebody had just taken away their life from them.

It made me wonder for quite a lot of time how fast the people were in creating the much needed awareness and hats off to their Zuckerberg loyalty.

But I was thinking on the separate lines. What disturbed me were some of the gruesome facts –

• ·    -     A crime is recorded every three minutes in India.
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• ·       Every 22 minutes a woman is raped somewhere in India, every 76 minutes one child gets raped and every six hours a girl is subjected to domestic violence.
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• ·   -     15 Suicides took place every one hour during the year 2012. (More than one lakh persons (1, 35,445) in the country lost their lives by committing suicide during the year 2012). It is observed that social and economic causes have led most of the males to commit suicides whereas emotional and personal causes have mainly driven females to end their lives.

• ·   -    A total 3, 94,982 accidental deaths were reported in the country during the year 2012.
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• ·        2,44,270 cases were registered for various crimes against women during 2012 which includes - rape, abduction, kidnapping, dowry deaths, assault, insult to the modesty of women, cruelty by husbands, importation of girls, immoral traffic, commission of Sati and Indecent representation of  women.
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• ·   -    3,823 murders have been recorded in the category of the people aged above 50 years during 2008-2012 and 311 victims of culpable homicide not amounting to murder & kidnapping & abduction have been recorded in the category of the people aged above 50 years during 2009-2012.

 It is strange for a nation like India to hype the non functionality of a message application just for an hour, wherein almost 3 girls are raped and 20 crimes are committed in an hour all over the nation. It pinches deeply to notice that the people lately have been too busy to read or share a word of wisdom with the community and spread awareness of what’s happening around but the same people have enough time to chat on such messengers and even complain for its non performance. Had they complained for the non performance of the country, we’d have seen India as one of the developed countries long back.

Mistakes are pardonable but once. But it is observed that these mistakes are being passed on from generation to generation, as we youngsters are doing same things – talking about latest mobiles, new software, originating a genre of music and dance, keeping a tab on famous people and so on but we don’t know whom to vote, why to vote and the effects it has on the entire nation for years and years to come. We have got our “Cool” stuff to think about and the grave national issues are simply pretty uninteresting; in the next decade or two we as well will be witnessed whining about the system and the trend will go on and on like a legacy until we grab our minds now and sit thinking about it.

Let us at least take a few moments out of our lives for the real causes rather than the virtual ones. Although not everyone might want to work on it, but each one of us can spread the awareness and help campaign against evil. After all it’s our society, our people and our nation struggling and the good thing is this hardship can be a little short and easy, if and only if we start working on it hands in hands; for it’s a weak person who simply blames the present system but a strong one acts to change it for him and for the generations to come.

All in all, it’s never wrong to be tech-freak or music lover or any goddamn thing, but it is also important that we don’t get estranged with the things happening around us – we ought to bring a whirlpool for every oh-so-wrong thing, be it Whatsapp, Facebook,  politics, the crimes in the country and the world and whatever wrong comes our way and perhaps show our fidelity towards the online and the offline world.

(Source of Data - National Crime Records Bureau, India)

Confession with Confusion

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Each one of us masters in mystification. But being confused rightly is the art we need to learn. You'll be surprised to know that the majority of us are unaware of this particular skill and perhaps in trouble. Don’t suspect what you just read, believe me you can own your confusions; for it's absolutely okay to be confused but wittily. Once I asked a friend of mine, who was recently dumped by her boyfriend if she still loved him? She was pretty unsure of the answer and she said - "I know he has left me abruptly and that leaves him no room in my life." I asked her further, "Does that mean you don't love him?" Reflecting what to respond she got quite low and she subtly answered - "I don't know may be yes I do love him."                            Her feelings were a sort of labyrinth and so her life. Isn't it silly to be knowingly confused for the contemptible love? If she had to be confused she could have chose some better reason for that. Knowing a person isn't worth it, why to baffle emotions? Had she said - “It’s him- the right guy, but I don’t love him, so I ain't sure if I should go ahead.” This confusion sounds much better and simpler than the previous one, isn't it? It’s a palpable one.The point is bewilderment is good enough when there is a real call for. Ridiculous confusions lead us to wrong confessions in every arena of life, which ultimately puts us on for wrong decisions and wrong inferences. It annihilates our everyday life. When you know something needs to be off, put if off gracefully. Strain out perplexity only in the situations you know something needs to be done and then confess your confusions to people close to you and they’ll help you sort out the witty ones and do away with the baseless things. Think over the real problems and act on them like a knight in armour.  I recently read on some social website - 88% of problems are self-created and I bet many of them arise out of self inflicted confusions.

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It’s said with practice everything becomes a habit. We need to train our minds day after day to think the right things and practise the art of judging the witty confusions and turning them into a confession. You must be wondering why to confess the confusions, right? The science of confession plays an inevitable role to chuck out confusions and sort out a person’s brain. While confessing you’ll realise out of 10, approximately 3 things hadn't any need to be mentioned, approximately 4 things are simply because of over thinking or kind of mental/ emotional weariness; merely 3 things crave for your honest attention. Opening up makes us shrewd, pure and simple.
Just remember, a level-headed man energises its thoughts only for rational confusions and sets apart the unreasonable ones and you categorically ought to be one of them.